Nov 2, 2020
Therapist Jessica Fern joins Tristan Taormino to talk about her
new book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual
Nonmonogamy. We talk about the basics of attachment theory and
how to challenge the inherent mononormativity in it in order to
apply it to nonmonogamy, especially polyamory. There is an in-depth
discussion of childhood and ongoing trauma and how it relates to
our relationships as well as the effects of larger societal systems
on our sense of identity, safety, and security. We explore the
co-regulation of our nervous systems, the difference between secure
connection and a securely attached relationship, tools to help
people and their partners learn about their attachment styles and
become polysecure. Polysecure is the first book of its
kind to look at nonmonogamy through the lens of attachment theory
expansively without pathologizing it. Special thanks to Dipsea and Intensity Pour Moi for
making this show possible.
Jessica Fern is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and
relationship expert. In her international private practice,
Jessica works with individuals, couples and people in
multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by
their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment
styles and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities
in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com.